Sometimes relationships baffle me. People say I love you, and I care for you. But once they're apart it's a whole different story. Long distance relationships baffle me the most. Not that people are in them, or that it's hard not to see the person you love for so long. The thing I don't understand is that people think it might not work. Does love dilute after a certain amount of km? Is it dough that thins out and eventually breaks if you pull it too far? I just can't grasp the idea of: If you're with me, then you're physically with me. If you're not physically with me then you're not with me.
The title of this blog is referring to a movie that is coming out. You can watch the trailer for "like crazy" on youtube, and you'll understand hopefully what I'm talking about. I just don't get it that people can't deal with long distance relationships at ALL. I understand it's difficult because you love them so much. But does that mean if you love them so much and can't do it long distance you should start seeing other people? Is it about the physical contact that you're missing? Is it the kissing and the sex? I just don't get it.
I thought that if you love someone, I mean, really love someone, then you can make long distance work, even if it hurts. You don't have to say "Would it be easier if you could see other people?" and keep going with the relationship. Does that mean you're breaking up? Well, not in all cases, open relationships are the new IT thing.
I'm not the expert on how it feels in a long distance relationship, I just can't grasp the idea of saying something like "lets see other people but still be together". If you love each other and want to still be together, you should have the need to see other people on the side. Then you're letting your physical being take over, don't you think?
Please, can someone enlighten me?
If you really love someone then distance is no problem. But if you say "lets see other people but still be together" than it's not love. For me it's as easy as that.
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